The gift of space.

Space.

We tend to have a lifestyle where people are mentally obese: walking around with the heavy weight of undigested experiences. Can you relate?

Recently I experienced an unexpected horrible life shock which shook me to the core.

I needed this one thing.

Something you’ll give to someone you love.

Something that we don’t tend to give ourselves.

Something that you hold for others.

Something you so desperately need, to process what needs processing.

I’m talking about space.

Our lifestyles mean we are constantly filling our space with things, relationships, activities and whatever else shows up in the days of our lives.

Too many people running on autopilot with little or no space to comprehend their life shocks.

So I took the space. I protected that space so that I could digest what happened.

This edition is for you to do that too.

Carve out solo time, create and protect that space so that you can digest your life shock, day, week, month, quarter or year.

Understand what is happening for you and to you.

Take the time to process, feel, enjoy and truly digest the lessons, and experiences good and bad to convert them into something meaningful to you.

I did that.

I can tell you, it’s raised my awareness to the next level and after working through some tough processing, my mindset has upgraded to an improved version of myself.

Many people in relationships get nervous when someone asks for space right? Understandably so, since it usually means giving or receiving a ‘soft landing’ instead of a hard exit.

When you give someone space, you also gift them with an opportunity for them to get clarity and grow – exactly what I got in the space I gave myself.

Get the balance right and you evolve with an improved version of yourself – mind, body and soul.

Digesting something tough is not easy but worth it!

What will you start with?

All my best,
Nis Arend
High-Performance Coach & Mentor

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Jamie Hunt

12:11 18 Oct 24

Before attending The Classic Day for Men Workshop, I was at a major crossroads after nearly two decades with the same company, unsure of my next steps and anxious about the future. I didn't know what to expect, but the experience was transformative. Nis guided me through a deep reflection on my life, helping me let go of things that no longer served me and focus on what truly matters.Since the workshop, I’ve gained incredible clarity and achieved personal milestones I never thought possible—earning my private pilot’s license, climbing mountains, and even participating in fitness photo shoots. I’m more self-aware, confident, and excited about my future. This workshop gave me the tools to truly transform my life, and I highly recommend it to anyone looking for real change but unsure where to start.The Classic Day for Men was a life-changing experience, and I’m so grateful for it!

Anita Guru

20:43 03 Aug 24

I recently attended a webinar on workplace bullying with Nis Arend on the panel. It was super informative and so insightful, Nis shared some great insights and perspectives on the topic which the audience, and myself, found really helpful. Nis definitely has a wealth of knowledge and a great style which engages an audience.

Brian Evje

09:29 03 Aug 24

In an online session, Nis spoke compellingly about the roots of workplace bullying – and she provided concrete, actionable guidance on how to navigate difficult situations and counter negative relationships.

chelsea koomson

19:16 01 Aug 24

Had an amazing experience with Nis' program, and would highly recommend it!

Thishangar Gnanamurali

15:20 31 Jul 24

Nis's presentation skills were impressive, and I knew she would be an excellent addition to our Presentation Skills Bootcamp. She not only delivered a compelling keynote speech but also spent the entire day interacting with attendees, fostering connections, and helping them enhance their own presentation abilities.

Chris Parker

10:57 18 Jun 24

I saw Nis presenting and felt that she would be great for our IT Bootcamp, which she was! She was our Keynote speaker and stayed for the day, talking to people and getting them involved in getting to know each other and themselves.

Anton Streeks-Henry

16:35 12 Jun 24

Having been in charge of creating a bespoke summer internship programme for over 200 students, I was tasked in finding a facilitator who would be able to command the audience of these young people. Nis Arend was recommended to me as someone who has had experience of doing this both in person, virtually and internationally with great success so sounded like the ideal fit. I must say that whatever expectations I had were completely surpassed with the feedback from the young people seeing Nis score 97% “Exceptional” and 100% “Would recommend” from the surveys conducted post programme. Her ability to engage a huge audience, virtually, for over 4 hours a day for a week is outstanding, with her constant knowledge, expertise, energy and enthusiasm second to none. Having witnessed every session she facilitated myself, I was in complete ore and left feeling inspired. She was able to bring individuals from a variety of different backgrounds into a neutral space, promoting our brand and ensuring that everyone felt included which is extremely challenging to do with an international bank the size and with a global reach like ours. I want to thank Nis again and not only would 100% recommend her and her work, but I will be using her services at any given opportunity I have.

Dennis Brett

12:44 20 Feb 24

Nis has been instrumental in my journey. Through her guidance, I've gained invaluable insights into setting boundaries and navigating extremely challenging situations.Previously, I’d often back down and justify myself to difficult individuals.Today, I confidently stand in my authority and communicate with conviction, and it feels great.What amazed me most was the rapid transformation I experienced after our 1:1 mentoring sessions. Nis provided me with a practical toolkit that I can rely on whenever I face difficulties, allowing me to spend less time firefighting and more time enjoying the rewards of my efforts.Her strategic approach has brought clarity and order to my life. I'm grateful for her support and wholeheartedly recommend her services to those looking to lead themselves better and live a more fulfilling life.